Breaking up is hard to do.
When we make the decision to end a relationship, we get bombarded with seeds of doubt, lingering feelings of attachment, and straight up fear. This stands true even if the relationship is no longer serving us.
After an eternity of toxic chaos, I finally had to cut the cord with him once and for all.
Him being my Ego.
If you have a Heart, then you have an Ego. The Ego’s mission is to whisper sweet nothings into your ear while he slowly takes over and starts to control your life. He makes decisions for the wrong reasons and keeps you stuck in old behavioral patterns while creating a big wall around your heart.
Have you ever felt pulled in two different directions when making a decision? One of those is your Heart, the other is the Ego. Most often, the Ego wins.
The ego is that very convincing point of view that acts on greediness, selfishness, and fear.
Many of us will even confuse the Ego for our Heart. I promise you, they are not the same. Tweet this!
My ego was constantly telling me that I wasn’t good enough.
I believed him for the majority of my life. Eventually, my Heart became discouraged and burdened with immense doubt anytime I did ANYTHING in life. It got so bad that even in conversation with friends I would feel self-conscious and insecure.
As I started to fuel my body with better foods and focused more and more on happiness, I became aware when I heard the Ego’s voice. Instead of feeling defeated by how often he perked up, I became grateful for this newfound awareness. Now that I was more in tune, whenever he crept in I would simply acknowledge his presence and let it pass.
One morning as I sat down for my daily meditation, I felt that it was time to let him go – once and for all.
I needed to release him and his hold over me. This was pretty heavy. I started to quietly sob realizing that I was totally attached to him. I had been in the awful co-dependent relationship with my Ego, ignoring the truth of my own Heart.
As I sat there crying, I told him it was over.
He begged and pleaded but I stayed strong, telling him that I was ready for true love.
If you’re ready to leave him and find your own true love…
1. Understand that you are not your Ego
The Ego is not you. It is a series of repetitive thoughts meant to keep you from living a truly passionate and happy life. There is a huge difference when you are thinking and living from the heart, versus when the Ego is in the driver’s seat. Let him go – you do not have to be a victim to your Ego.
2. Trust that the Ego has served a greater purpose
When I let go of my Ego, I thanked him for getting me to exactly where I am in life. He taught me so many lessons and made me a stronger person. I don’t regret the time I spent with my Ego and neither should you. Today is a new day, and today is YOUR day.
3. Reset your heart’s settings
Now that you’re free from your Ego’s grasp, it’s time to reprogram your mind with some positive ideas about yourself and about life. I love making myself sweet love notes and putting them around my house so that my heart is always getting friendly feedback. As your heart begins to bloom, you’ll soon notice that true love is always with you because it lies within you.
In the end, this is one relationship you won’t ever think back on and wonder if you did the right thing.
Madly in love,